When I was in college, I was indecisive on the best ways to fill up my semesters so that I could graduate as quickly as possible and still do well. I asked a friend for advice. I thought she was smarter and more experienced than me. She gave me great advice, and I took it. That decision added a year to my college education. It was not until the next semester was well on its way that I realized that what I had thought about doing with my classes before asking for her advice had been the better option. There were a couple of things I forgot to think about when I unthinkingly followed her counsel. Things like the fact that we were in completely different majors, therefore, the way she handled her classes were not necessarily helpful to me, I did not work as many hours as her and so could have taken more classes, and that we were two different people.
When it comes to decision making, no one makes better decisions about your life than you. Yes, it’s ok to ask for advice but just make sure you are treating it like what it is, advice. When I was younger, I thought everyone knew better than me what I should do. Because of this attitude, it took me much longer to grow into myself. The thing is, whether what you decide to do end up being a failure or a success, the most important part of that experience is that you decided, not let someone else decide for you. Attitudes like that are what lead to unhappiness and feelings of, “I don’t know who I am.”
Years from now, there might be a list of things that you never accomplished because you let life pass you by in a mist of indecisiveness. Don’t let that list be long or to exist at all. Take TODAY to start deciding what you want to accomplish with your life. Decide what the most important things and people are to you. Decide who you want to be and how you are going to get there. Decide to stop being indecisive and take a chance.
Laureen is a freelance writer with a background in medicine. Although writing has always been her passion it was not until she was having a “how we want to raise our children” discussion with her husband that she came to an interesting realization; how could she teach her children to follow their dreams ambitiously when she was not living her own? At that point she started her writing and coaching career. She writes and coaches women about how they can gain clarity in their lives and work at 2clarify.com. Instagram: @laureenoliphant Facebook: facebook.com/laureenoliphant